GIRL, Buy the Shoes!

This week, I was reminded of how much I deprive myself of things  I enjoy for the sake of "being responsible" and achieving a goal.

After months of looking for a pair of Converse I really liked (yep MONTHS) I finally found the pair that had me revisiting the website ev-e-ry-day. okay, confession- multiple times and day. Now, I knew I really wanted these shoes but nothing I told myself made me get off the fence...

"Am I going to get them?...but I'm trying to save more money"
"Get them. You love them....But..."
"If they were sold out would you regret not getting them?..Yes...But...I need fall clothes..."

I know I'm not the only one who feels like their paycheck is gone before the ink dries on that virtual check. Even though I am working hard and consistently towards several goals in major ways, and I am an advocate of "treat yo'self" days, I still feel like treating myself on something other than a cupcake or meal from a favorite restaurant will set me back or negate my financial goals which...would possibly negatively effect my music & acting goals that require my monetary investment. 

"I'm not where I want to be" so, I don't deserve to put me first (self care, health, enjoyment, my needs & wants, etc.). What a flawed and hurtful way of thinking!

So, I finally bought the shoes. Of course I told myself that could always return them if I still doubted the purchase. They came in the mail a day and a half later- sooner than I expected! And I LOVE THEM. I even did a whole shoe photoshoot with them. Lol. I danced about how much I love these shoes, which is what prompted me to share this story with you.

   

Having goals and discipline is okay but depriving myself of things for the sake of achieving a goal doesn't make me happy, doesn't fulfill my promise to myself to enjoy life to the fullest, and punishing myself for not being where I want to be is definitely not okay. I'm all for doing what you gotta do to get to where you wanna be but what's the point of achieving something if I cant also enjoy the process? cuz ultimately there will be another goal that follows. 

As with everything in life, I know it takes balance but I leave you with this message-

Buy the shoes. Go on the travel. Do the dope things you deprive yourself of and make yourself feel guilty for desiring.


I never want to look back thinking I missed enjoying wonderful things & experiences when it was very much in my control to do and have. Life is wayyy too short. I want to see you thrive in enjoying life to the fullest too!

Love, 

- Lynn

 

1 comment

  • K D

    K D

    Those shoes are fresh, Cuz! I randomly bought a flight to New Orleans for Mardi gras next year earlier this week. Shoutout to us for not letting our own thinking stop us from doing dope things.

    Those shoes are fresh, Cuz! I randomly bought a flight to New Orleans for Mardi gras next year earlier this week. Shoutout to us for not letting our own thinking stop us from doing dope things.

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